There are givers, and there are takers. And then some of us are in the middle.

Take a second and tell yourself (out loud) if you’re a giver or a taker.

For a long time, I never thought twice about asking someone for a small favor or a bit of advice. I never took advantage of anyone, but I just wasn’t aware of how much some people were doing for me. I probably took as much as I gave.

When I got into personal development almost two years ago, one of the most challenging components was dedicating myself to becoming more self-aware. Aware of what I say, what I do, what I do for others and what others do for me.

I’ve listened to hundreds of podcasts/interviews and read dozens of books, and many of them carry a common theme-the importance of providing value to others.

As a self-employed person, I was always hesitant to give away free content (provide value for free). After all, my knowledge, experience and skills are what makes me unique and marketable. But it didn’t take long to realize the importance of being a giver. Think about it, when you come across a nice person who adds some sort of value to your life, you only want to be around that person more. It’s a win for everyone involved.

In a recent episode of The¬†Art of Charm podcast, host Jordan Harbinger stated, “knowing there is reciprocity in all human relationships that are beneficial is one thing. Thinking “and then he’ll publish my book” (or some other favor) is transactional.

In other words, be nice because being nice is nice.

How can you add value to someone else?

  • Connect 2 people in business who you think could create well together (and don’t ask for anything in return)
  • Buy for the person behind you next time you are at Sheetz (or some other less cool store)
  • Offer your services for free to an event or donate to charity
  • Offer to watch your friends kids for the night so the parents can have a date night
  • It’s Christmas time, get creative!

Let me know how you are providing value to others. Maybe I’ll use one of your techniques!